My Kind Of Man. but first... a warning.

I usually try to not let things get too personal on here, to the point where they are kind of awkward to read (believe me, you should be thankful! many a post I have refrained from publishing to the web!), but this might be getting kind of close. WAIT! I'm warning you, but don't freak out! This isn't some deep post about some discussion I had with my boyfriend or how I have deep, unresolved daddy issues (wait, did I just say that?), but more just a silly little list (list? letter? who cares!), I'm putting it out there. So judge away, but don't tell me this isn't the kind of man you wouldn't want to spend a lot of time with, because I wouldn't believe you for a second.

So without further ado, a letter to my kind of man (stop reading now, if you must):

Ahem. 

Dear My Kind of Man,

I really need to be able to depend on you, so be strong for me when I'm not strong, because those days will happen. Life is rough, and I need a best friend to go through it with. So whether it's encouraging me to get out of bed in the morning, or a walk after work to breathe some fresh air, or the simple bearing of your testimony, I just know I'll need a little something extra. Or, heck! Even just acknowledging that life is hard sometimes and that we could use a little rest! Understanding is all I really want. Face the fact now: you are with a woman who can be kind of emotionally unstable. BUT keep in mind that when you don't want to get out of bed, I'll bring you French toast, iron your shirt, and remind you of how much you're loved.

Be passionate. Really, I cannot see spending every day with you if you don't find joy in a sunset or lightening storm, a piece of music, a bite of pie, or in the little people walking around the house making a mess. I swear there are just not that many of these kinds of people in this world, and I happen to gasp at things like that. Gasp and cry. And take thousands of pictures. So be that. Oh, and being passionate about video games does not count.

Work your butt off for the things and people you love. Work for your family. Work to stay comfortable and keep food in the fridge. Work to be able to send your kids to school, piano lessons, and dance class. But don't work too hard that you don't come home till it's dark, or don't make it to a piano recital, or a parent-teacher meeting. Be home when you're home. Stress in inevitable, and disappointment and frustrations, but don't forget that you've got a great life and a good family that will love you and support you till the end. If we fail, we fail big, an we'll start over. Together.

And make me laugh. Make me smile. Make me feel like I'm the greatest thing since a slice of punkin pie. Put me on the spoke of the tringle across from you and from God. Come to me when you're excited, or miserable, or starving, or puking. Talk to me about everything you've ever thought of, and work with me when we are struggling. Pray with me. Go to the temple with me. Trust in me. And believe me, you'll have pie the rest of your life and the happiest wife in the world.

Love,

Woman in Need

Note: These are not requirements for any and all men. I just know that there are men in the world like this, contrary to popular belief. My best friend is that kind of man. But the only other men I know like this are either married or they are my brothers. So... four exist (Nathan is already called for).